Reality is differentiated by the 'material' everything and the 'conscious' interactions you experience. Cause and effect in this second realm consists of interactions with reality. These 'interactions' are the transactions you have with others, as well as your interactions with physical reality. These transactions and interactions with reality are as if a language. This is the language you need to listen to.
This system is designed in every way to facilitate one thing, "to make real people." You need to listen to reality. Your culture is unrealistic and offensive, and that is the opinion of a very powerful and angry God (Someone who wields reality and has the power to destroy your world). My advice would be to investigate and learn the truth about what is really going on and to make positive changes as quickly as possible.